For years the month of January has been officially known as “divorce month.” Even though a study conducted at the University of Washington deducted that although most divorces actually happen in the months of March and August, there is a significant spike of divorces seen during January, right after the New Year.
Many experts in the legal field of divorce have a theory on why there are so many divorces in January—simply that people do not want to divorce over the holidays. If a couple has children, and are contemplating divorce, they will postpone the proceedings until after the holidays. This will give the children one last holiday together before the divorce begins and the family has split apart.
Another theory is that since the new year is a time of resolutions and plans, a couple might also want to think about reevaluating their married life. James Gross, a Maryland divorce attorney told the Huffpost:
“The holidays are also a time when emotions run high, and if you are unhappy or angry in your marriage, the holidays may push those feelings to the breaking point.”
It may also be with the holidays that the thought of divorce will get swept away in the lights, music, and just overall joyous merriment that the couple thinks they can somehow find a way to work the problems out. However, when the new year rings in, and the festivities fade, the problem is brought back to the forefront and the problems begin again.
When a marriage is failing, there is not a quick or easy fix. Some couples work it all out, to come through to the other side stronger than before. However, some couples are not able to be that resilient and the marriage does indeed end in divorce. And when it gets to that point, it doesn’t matter whether it is January or May—the divorce will unfortunately happen.